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What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman |  |
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These are the questions Danielle Crittenden answers in What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us. She examines the foremost issues in women's lives -- sex, marriage, motherhood, work, aging, and politics -- and argues that a generation of women has been misled: taught to blame men and pursue independence at all costs. Happiness is obtainable, Crittenden says, but only if women will free their minds from outdated feminist attitudes.
By drawing on her own experience and a decade of research and analysis of modern female life, Crittenden passionately and engagingly tackles the myths that keep women from realizing the happiness they deserve. And she introduces a new way of thinking about society's problems that may, at long last, help women achieve the lives they desire.
作者简介 Danielle Crittenden has written for The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and Ladies' Home Journal, among other publications. She is the founder of The Women's Quarterly, published by the Independent Women's Forum. She has appeared on NBC's Today show and is a frequent commentator on many national television and radio programs. She lives with her husband and two children in Washington, D.C.
媒体推荐 From Kirkus Reviews
Another attempt to solve contemporary womens troubling conflicts about the need to stay home with the kids vs. the option of juggling job, home, and children. Crittenden is the 35-year-old founder of a Washington, D.C.based periodical, the Women's Quarterly; shes also married and the mother of two young children. Women today, she claims, are going about it wrong: Theyre starting careers and postponing marriage and childbearing until an age where their choice of partners is limited. If a woman wait s to mate until she is past 30, then her pool of available men will be filled with ``misfits and crazies''or shes likely to get stuck in an existing stalled relationship. Crittenden blames the feminist movement, in part, for promoting female self-absorpti on and obsession with independence. Her solution: Marry young, stay home with the children until they start school, and then launch a career. Why should the mother stay home instead of the father? Because women want to, argues the author, citing the resul ts of various polls, as well as anecdotal material describing the ``guilty tension that is felt by every working mother.'' Crittenden also (mistakenly) blames feminists for elevating the value of work outside the home over work inside it. In fact, that pr ejudice existed long before the 1970s feminist movement began; actually, feminism attempted to critically address it. Crittenden writes persuasively about the rewards of long-term marriage and the complications of sexual freedom but seems less sensitive t o issues of women aging, describing the post-45 period as the time when a womans ``body finally fails her'' and she becomes less seductive. Older mothers, she adds, are less capable of chasing toddlers in the playground. Balancing parenting, a spouse, an d a career in our complex society requires skill, confidence, and maturity. Trolling for a husband at age 22 just because thats when the pond is thick with finsas Crittenden recommendsseems a regressive alternative. -- Copyright ©1998, Kirkus Ass ociates, LP. All rights reserved. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Review
Meredith Maran
author of What It's Like to Live Now
They're all here -- the modern woman's hot buttons: love, marriage, motherhood, aging, and yes, sex....[This] thoughtful analysis will achieve its purpose: to make every one of us think.
George Will
The Washington Post
[A] deeply humane book, two copies of which should be given as wedding presents to every couple....
Suzanne Fields
Los Angeles Times Syndicate
Wonderful and witty.
Camille Paglia
Salon.com
A thoughtful critic of current mores.
Mary Leonard
The Boston Globe
Crittenden aims her appeal at twenty-somethings who take women's rights for granted but are not sure their stressed-out working mothers were right when they said they could have it all. Crittenden...[tells] women they can embrace more traditional values, find contentment and even have some fun without donning a dowdy housedress and becoming June Cleaver.
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Mary Leonard The Boston Globe Crittenden aims her appeal at twenty-somethings who take women's rights for granted but are not sure their stressed-out working mothers were right when they said they could have it all. Crittenden...[tells] women they can embrace more traditional values, find contentment and even have some fun without donning a dowdy housedress and becoming June Cleaver.
编辑推荐 Amazon.com
Young women are the unhappy victims of their mothers' generation's feminism, says Danielle Crittenden in What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us. Though they usually don't realize it, feminism has "seeped into their minds like intravenous saline into the arm of an unconscious patient." Crittenden says that feminism doesn't provide answers for the questions that distress young women, such as, "Is work really more important and fulfilling than raising my children?" and "Why does my boyfriend not want to get married as much as I do?" The modern dilemma, she says, is that the success of feminism has cut women off from those aspects of life that are distinctly female desires, such as being a wife and raising children. Crittenden wants us to take a step back from sexual freedom (which she says ends up harming the woman, who gets used and dumped), career (only a tiny minority have stimulating, gratifying jobs), and zealous personal autonomy (often an indication of being too fearful and weak to take on responsibilities), in favor of commitment, marriage, and child rearing. She argues that feminist fervor has failed modern women, and gives her suggestions for how women can recapture meaning, fulfillment, and happiness. --Joan Price --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
专业书评 From Library Journal
The founder of the Women's Quarterly, which in four years has attracted lots of attention, pro and con, argues that today's young women are unhappy because they have been taught to put independence first and blame men for everything.
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
The Wall Street Journal, Francis Fukuyama
According to Ms. Crittenden's perceptive critique, the thing these mothers didn't tell their daughters, which every previous generation had known instinctively, is that they have bodies and thus natures. These natures would cause them to crave, as they matured, not only autonomy but children, family, companionship and love. She argues incisively that disregarding this simple truth has made the daughters' generation less happy. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
