Message number three: don't leave before you leave. I think there's a really deep irony to the fact that actions women are taking -- and I see this all the time -- with the objective of staying in the workforce actually lead to their eventually leaving. Here's what happens: We're all busy. Everyone's busy. A woman's busy. And she starts thinking about having a child, and from the moment she starts thinking about having a child, she starts thinking about making room for that child. "How am I going to fit this into everything else I'm doing?" And literally from that moment, she doesn't raise her hand anymore, she doesn't look for a promotion, she doesn't take on the new project, she doesn't say, "Me. I want to do that." She starts leaning back. The problem is that -- let's say she got pregnant that day, that day -- nine months of pregnancy, three months of maternity leave, six months to catch your breath -- fast-forward two years, more often -- and as I've seen it -- women start thinking about this way earlier -- when they get engaged, when they get married, when they start thinking about trying to have a child, which can take a long time. One woman came to see me about this, and I kind of looked at her -- she looked a little young. And I said, "So are you and your husband thinking about having a baby?" And she said, "Oh no, I'm not married." She didn't even have a boyfriend. I said, "You're thinking about this just way too early."
建议三：在你离开前别放弃。我认为这是一个非常深刻的讽刺。对于女性所做的事而言——我一直目睹类似情况的发生——女性希望留在职场这个目标，往往导致它们最终不得不离开职场。曾发生这样的事：我们都忙;每个人都很忙;作为一个女人也很忙。她开始考虑生小孩。从她开始考虑生小孩的时候起，她开始考虑为孩子准备房间。 “我该如何调整孩子这件事和手头上的其他事呢?” 言下之意，她不再举起她的手，她不寻求提升，她不做新的计划，她不会说，“我，我想做那个。” 她开始退缩。这是个问题。让我们说说她怀孕的那段日子，9个月的怀胎，3个月的产假，6个月来调养休息，快速调整要2年，更寻常的是——正如我看到女性开始过早考虑这事，当她们有约会或者结婚时，当她们开始考虑要小孩，这会花相当长的一段时间。一位女性关于此事来找我， 我看着她，她显得有点年轻。 我说，“那么你和你丈夫考虑要小孩了?” 她说，“哦不，我还没结婚。” 她甚至没有男友。 我说，“你考虑这个太早了吧。”
But the point is that what happens once you start kind of quietly leaning back? Everyone who's been through this -- and I'm here to tell you, once you have a child at home, your job better be really good to go back, because it's hard to leave that kid at home -- your job needs to be challenging. It needs to be rewarding. You need to feel like you're making a difference. And if two years ago you didn't take a promotion and some guy next to you did, if three years ago you stopped looking for new opportunities, you're going to be bored because you should have kept your foot on the gas pedal. Don't leave before you leave. Stay in. Keep your foot on the gas pedal, until the very day you need to leave to take a break for a child -- and then make your decisions. Don't make decisions too far in advance, particularly ones you're not even conscious you're making.
但关键是，一旦你开始退缩下来，接下来会发生什么呢?每个人都会经历这个。在这儿我告诉你，一旦在家你有了孩子，你真的最好回到你的工作中去，因为把小孩留在家太难了，你的工作得有挑战性。它也得有回报。你得感觉到世界因你而变。如果2年前你没有得到提升，在你旁边的一位男士升职了;如果三年前你放弃寻找新的机会，你会觉得很无趣，因为你本应该紧踩油门加油的。在你离开前别放弃。保住工作。 紧踩油门，除非到了你需要离开的那一天——为了孩子休假，然后做出自己的决定。不要提前做太长远决定，特别是你甚至不晓得自己该做怎样的决定。
My generation really, sadly, is not going to change the numbers at the top. They're just not moving. We are not going to get to where 50 percent of the population -- in my generation, there will not be 50 percent of [women] at the top of any industry. But I'm hopeful that future generations can. I think a world that was run where half of our countries and half of our companies were run by women, would be a better world. And it's not just because people would know where the women's bathrooms are, even though that would be very helpful. I think it would be a better world. I have two children. I have a five-year-old son and a two-year-old daughter. I want my son to have a choice to contribute fully in the workforce or at home, and I want my daughter to have the choice to not just succeed, but to be liked for her accomplishments.
我这一代的女性非常可惜，没能改变高管职位的数量。女人们就是待在原地。我们没能达到50%的高管职位——在任何行业的高管职位中，女性都未达到50%。但我希望未来一代人可以做到。我认为我们世界上半数国家和半数公司会由女性所领导，那将会是一个更美好的世界。这不仅仅是因为人们会知道女性洗手间在哪儿，尽管这也有非常大的帮助。我认为它将会是一个更美好的世界。我有2个孩子，5岁的儿子和3岁的女儿。我想我儿子会选择在职场或在家里都尽心尽责，全心奉献。我女儿不仅仅会做出成功的选择，她会更热爱她所做出的成就。
Thank you.
谢谢。
