Message number two: make your partner a real partner. I've become convinced that we've made more progress in the workforce than we have in the home. The data shows this very clearly. If a woman and a man work full-time and have a child, the woman does twice the amount of housework the man does, and the woman does three times the amount of childcare the man does. So she's got three jobs or two jobs, and he's got one. Who do you think drops out when someone needs to be home more? The causes of this are really complicated, and I don't have time to go into them. And I don't think Sunday football-watching and general laziness is the cause.
第二条：让你的伴侣成为一个真正的合作伙伴。我已经确信我们在职场中比在家庭中起了更大的作用。数据也很清楚地表明这点。如果一个女性和一个男性都是全职并有一个小孩，女性比起男性要做两倍多家务活儿，女性比起男性做了三倍多照顾婴儿的事。所以她承担了2份或3份工作，而他只有一份。当有人必须在家多干活时，谁应该留下来? 这个理由实在太复杂，我没有时间深入讲它们。但我也不认为周日看美式足球和日常懒惰是理由。
I think the cause is more complicated. I think, as a society, we put more pressure on our boys to succeed than we do on our girls. I know men that stay home and work in the home to support wives with careers, and it's hard. When I go to the Mommy-and-Me stuff and I see the father there, I notice that the other mommies don't play with him. And that's a problem, because we have to make it as important a job, because it's the hardest job in the world to work inside the home, for people of both genders, if we're going to even things out and let women stay in the workforce. Studies show that households with equal earning and equal responsibility also have half the divorce rate. And if that wasn't good enough motivation for everyone out there, they also have more -- how shall I say this on this stage? -- they know each other more in the biblical sense as well.
我认为理由是更加复杂的。我认为，作为一个社会，我们总是更希望男孩子们成功，女孩子则压力小些。我知道让居家男人呆在家里做内务支持职场妻子很难。当我去“妈咪和我”的培训课时，看到那里的父亲，我留意到其他妈咪不愿和他相处。这就是个问题，因为我们得把内务变成一个重要的工作，因为居家工作是世界上最难的工作。无论男人女人，我们只有平分了这些事，女性才可能留在职场。研究表明夫妻收入相等、且夫妻分担责任相当的家庭也有50%的离婚率。如果这数据并不那么鼓舞人，还有更多的，在这个讲台我该怎么讲呢?夫妻双方对于彼此的了解，不仅是做爱这么简单。
