Over time, however, we have the opportunity to learn to accept ourselves. People who have done this are confident in their true abilities; they do not feel the need to create a facade to impress other people. They are concerned with whether their actions produce worthwhile results rather than with how they are seen by others.
然而，随着时间的推移，我们开始有机会去学习认同自己。懂得如何认同自己的人，表明对自己的真实能力有信心;他们觉得没有必要去制造假象，让自己给其它人留下深刻印象。他们所关心的只是自己的行为能否产生有价值的结果，而不在乎别人会怎么看他们。
Finding acceptance is a natural desire of most people. When we are young, it is important to us to be accepted by a group and to be seen as "cool" by our peers. To do this, we will often adopt the views and interests of the group rather than develop our own.
渴望得到认同是大多数人的一个自然愿望。我们年轻的时候，能被一个团体所认同，被同辈认为很“酷”，对我们来说是很重要的。为此，我们常常要接受与团体一致的观点和兴趣，而不去发展我们自己的观点或兴趣。
